Being in your 20’s feels like a long spontaneous roadtrip.
It’s wild, awkward, emotional, experimental, fun and yet educational… it could be the best years of your life if you do it right. Do it right by not having any single regret or “what if’s”.
You regret things that you do and didn’t do.
So why end up regretting for not doing anything? Choose to regret for something you did; by doing so you can tell yourself you were brave enough to take action. Hence, you’ll end up not having any regret at all because you gave it a shot.
Have you ever felt that hype just for being young and crazy? You have all the confidence and energy to do what you want; party and have fun, travel, eat and drink out.
You have the freedom and courage to do so. But let’s admit it that it’s not just all fun and games because most of us were still studying in our 20’s, peer pressure is surreal, heart breaks, rejections, mistakes and you’ll fall down a couple of times. You have all the energy but at times it’s just so stressful. But it’s all just part of the trip, what matters is how you get up again.
As the book The defining Decade says, though your 20s can feel both responsibility- and consequence-free, the choices you make in this decade of life have an outsize impact on how your life progresses down the road. – psychologist Meg Jay
Cut yourself some slack and let’s see what you should do and not do right now.
- Love yourself. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, be confident and accept yourself. Claim that you are beautiful, you don’t need anybody to tell you that you are less than who you are. Learn to forgive and forget; wether it’s yourself or other people. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
- Give Love. Don’t forget to give love as much as you receive. We tend to spend most of our times for ourselves, make sure to allot time for your family and friends. Those who are always by your side, let them know that you are present. Give love to others like by volunteering for your community or for the environment as well.
- Health is wealth. Be not just physically healthy by having the right diet and exercise but make sure you’re also mentally and emotionally healthy as well. Know what kind of vitamins are suited for you. Don’t stop learning and feed your brain some good facts every now and then. If laughter is the best medicine then happiness is the best vitamin.
- Squeaky-clean. You look great, you feel great but that’s not all there is. Make sure you don’t just “look” clean. Your hygiene plays a big role in your confidence. Take those nice long baths, choose a skincare that works for you and don’t forget to visit your dentist regularly.
- Minimalism is the key. People always say “I just want to be happy!”, but how exactly do you achieve happiness? Everybody has different answers. The thing in life is that “The less you want, the happier you’ll be.” You’re not happy because you’re disappointed of not being able to have that something; wether it’s the latest gadget, that someone you like or that job you’ve dreamt off. Simplify your life, separate those you want and those you need and start to prioritize.
- Be Independent. Being independent is not as simple as not living with your parents anymore or having a job. Are you still asking money from your parents? Who washes the dishes, cook, do the laundry, pay your bills, buy your clothes and buy the groceries? Do you still depend on your family, partner or friends? Don’t worry, as long as you’re doing your part then you’re good. They will always be your support group so assess yourself; are you being dependent or are you simply getting some extra support?
- Time and Money Management. Be wise with how you spend your time and money. What do you need to do first? Do you really need to buy that or do you just want to have it? Start saving early and you’ll never regret it or better yet start investing!
- Create a Bucket List. List your goals in life, your dream job and how you can reach it. All those adventures you want to do and don’t forget to add some substance in your list as well. From traveling, dining experiences, doing extreme sports and having that tattoo; make sure to jot down those real life goals that you truly need. Having a planner/journal could help too.
- Social life. It’s not about how much followers or likes you have on social media. Why surround yourself and ask for their acceptance and plead for their praises when you don’t even know them and they don’t even know the real you!Surround yourself with people you look up to or people who you share the same passion with. Show empathy to others and learn how to read body language; these are skills that will be really useful when it comes to socializing with others.
- Keep the Faith. No matter what you’re going through in life it will all pass. Everything is possible for the person who has faith.
- Don’t let it bother you. Let others think what they want to think of you. If you live your life based on how other would like you to live your life then how will you be happy? You’re simply living your life based on their standards, always explaining why you do things and you let other people decide your life choices. Live your life how YOU want to live it. You are the sailor of your own boat regardless of the waves in front of you, the fishes under you, birds above you or other sailors behind you. Live your life right, know what is right and wrong and know what matters and not.
- Don’t be a gossip girl. Regardless of age and gender, people tend o gossip or give their opinions. The thing is that one statement can change someone else’s life for the good or the bad. People who likes to gossip usually feels that they are inferior to the other person or they are somehow jealous. Avoid these negative traits and you’ll feel better.
- REALationships. Relationships are things you should be serious about. Don’t be in a relationship for other reasons but love. It should not be taken lightly, do you really want to have a long list of your past relationships? People are trying too hard to find a partner and spending too much searching. The world is too big and there’s so much other stuffs to do. The right one will come at the right time.It’s better to wait than to waste time on some silly games.
- Take your time. Don’t rush into marriage. Marry someone you would really want to spend the rest of your life with. Marry when your ready; financially and emotionally. A lot of couple settle down early because of their own reasons and instead of doing everything alone you’ll now have a partner in life with everything. IF you found the right one, but what if you rushed to be with the wrong one? Take your time finding the right one. There’s always the pro’s and con’s in life.
- Couch potato. Don’t be lazy! Resting is different from being lazy. Taking a vacation or break from work is different from avoiding things that needs to get done. Do not procrastinate because you’ll end up enjoying doing nothing and you’ll continue doing so. Do what you need to do and always be productive. Rest when you’re tired but never quit without trying to give it all.
Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. For a journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. -Laozi
Some things are a challenge but when you set your mind into it you’ll definitely be able to do it.
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